Comments on: The “Usefulness” Factor http://fourwallsnolimits.net/the-usefulness-factor Surviving and thriving while confined to bed, homebound, or otherwise stuck in one place Thu, 08 Mar 2012 02:54:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: di http://fourwallsnolimits.net/the-usefulness-factor#comment-13167 di Thu, 26 Jan 2012 21:16:19 +0000 http://fourwallsnolimits.net/?p=226#comment-13167 I'm able to find adequate purpose in my life. I enjoy crafts. I still have an active role in certain household activities and maintaining the budget. However, I wish everyone else would be more considerate and stop adding to my burden. My family and friends think that just because I'm lying here, I'm their built-in babysitter. They expect me to watch their kids, be their psychiatrist and solve their financial problems. They frequently interrupt what I'm doing without ever considering that I may be in the middle of something. I frequently need to set boundaries just to be left alone with some peace and quiet. At times, I may need to close my bedroom door - just to have a day to myself. I dislike that my bedroom has become the new living room for everyone in the household. They come and go, as they please, without any consideration for my privacy. At times, I have to reschedule my personal needs until they finally leave my room. How do you deal with others that still insist you do everything for them? I’m able to find adequate purpose in my life. I enjoy crafts. I still have an active role in certain household activities and maintaining the budget.

However, I wish everyone else would be more considerate and stop adding to my burden.

My family and friends think that just because I’m lying here, I’m their built-in babysitter. They expect me to watch their kids, be their psychiatrist and solve their financial problems.

They frequently interrupt what I’m doing without ever considering that I may be in the middle of something.

I frequently need to set boundaries just to be left alone with some peace and quiet. At times, I may need to close my bedroom door – just to have a day to myself.

I dislike that my bedroom has become the new living room for everyone in the household. They come and go, as they please, without any consideration for my privacy. At times, I have to reschedule my personal needs until they finally leave my room.

How do you deal with others that still insist you do everything for them?

]]> By: Sandra Sullivan-Perez http://fourwallsnolimits.net/the-usefulness-factor#comment-3906 Sandra Sullivan-Perez Sun, 12 Dec 2010 12:27:07 +0000 http://fourwallsnolimits.net/?p=226#comment-3906 I struggled first for 20 years with invisible disabilities, then a fall down a staircase made a visible disability. My need to be useful has translated into knitting, crocheting, scrap booking,restoring dolls and working on a family recipe book. My only contact with the outdoors is to walk the dog out the front door, and sit on the front step till he is ready to go back in. I struggled first for 20 years with invisible disabilities, then a fall down a staircase made a visible disability. My need to be useful has translated into knitting, crocheting, scrap booking,restoring dolls and working on a family recipe book. My only contact with the outdoors is to walk the dog out the front door, and sit on the front step till he is ready to go back in.

]]> By: WackyLisa http://fourwallsnolimits.net/the-usefulness-factor#comment-908 WackyLisa Sun, 15 Nov 2009 13:55:43 +0000 http://fourwallsnolimits.net/?p=226#comment-908 Thanks for sharing this. I still struggle with this to this day. While I know there are lots of ways to measure worth other than by income I still feel a need to be "useful" somehow however I have to redefine useful for myself on a far too regular basis for my liking. I have some ideas thanks to this article. Thank you. Thanks for sharing this.
I still struggle with this to this day. While I know there are lots of ways to measure worth other than by income I still feel a need to be “useful” somehow however I have to redefine useful for myself on a far too regular basis for my liking. I have some ideas thanks to this article. Thank you.

]]> By: Em http://fourwallsnolimits.net/the-usefulness-factor#comment-907 Em Sun, 15 Nov 2009 04:02:26 +0000 http://fourwallsnolimits.net/?p=226#comment-907 Thanks for this post. As a person with multiple invisible disabilities I, too, struggle with 'feeling useful' - compounded by helpful queries from close family such as "Will you ever go back to work?" said in such a way as you know EXACTLY what that individual is thinking (and no, it isn't complementary!). I'm going to send my Mum this link! Thanks for this post. As a person with multiple invisible disabilities I, too, struggle with ‘feeling useful’ – compounded by helpful queries from close family such as “Will you ever go back to work?” said in such a way as you know EXACTLY what that individual is thinking (and no, it isn’t complementary!). I’m going to send my Mum this link!

]]> By: LameBill http://fourwallsnolimits.net/the-usefulness-factor#comment-906 LameBill Sun, 15 Nov 2009 03:11:53 +0000 http://fourwallsnolimits.net/?p=226#comment-906 Thanks! This article is just what I needed to hear after a day of trying to edit a single web page and utterly failing due to my own brain fog. Thanks! This article is just what I needed to hear after a day of trying to edit a single web page and utterly failing due to my own brain fog.

]]> By: Cesy http://fourwallsnolimits.net/the-usefulness-factor#comment-638 Cesy Wed, 23 Sep 2009 13:17:27 +0000 http://fourwallsnolimits.net/?p=226#comment-638 Another good article, thank you! Another good article, thank you!

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